Hello friends and family, and thank you again for your prayers. This blog is likely going to be very long, so please be patient with me as I process through and try my best to accurately portray the journey that has been Thailand. And just a side note, I am at an internet cafe and there is a button you push to make the words thai, so that is what the title is...a bunch of Thai gibberish for you to enjoy :)
So I think I left off telling about Friday, which is the day we planned the party for the kids. The Drop in Center for the Garden of Hope had it's "grand opening" with us there, and so we threw a huge party with pizza, pop, games, crafts, music, singing, and all sorts of other crazy merriment. It was so good to connect with the kids that came. Most of them are street kids who at night will sell flowers or even beg, but now they have a place that is safe to come and play and eat and learn about God's love for them in the midst of their poverty. As we prayed for the party, Mark reminded us that as we pray for these kids and come alongside them, they are no longer resource poor.
The party was especially wonderful and alltogether difficult for me when I met Peh, a fourteen year old girl from a near by slum (we later had the chance to visit her home--she lives in a one room apartment with her mom, her mom's boyfriend, and her four siblings). She dropped out of school to take care of her younger sister, who is a bundle of energy for sure. Faa, one of the ladies who works with the kids, told me that she is pregnant. I could not believe that this young girl eating mangos with me and wearing an angel t-shirt was about to become a mother. I didn't even know how to react, how to love her, and how to reconcile the fact that I was born into so much love and blessing, and that my cousin and his wife just had a daughter that was born into so much love, and my brother and sister in-law are going to have a baby in a few months that will also be born into much love and opportunity. God has been showing me His heart of mercy, and how he loves all his children, whatever their circumstances. That Love must propel us to love others, and to be the hands and feet that come alongside girls like Peh who have not known or experienced that love. Please pray for her and the Garden of Hope staff, and for her unborn child, that the world would be a little more beautiful and a little more gentle to these beloved children.
After the party we sang worship songs together in the drop in center. We are all wearing matching purple shirts, our uniforms for the week, and we are in the middle of bars and restuarants and massage parlors. Needless to say we get a lot of funny looks from tourists and thais alike, who wonder why all these Farang (foreigners) are spending their time singing songs about Jesus with dirty street kids. It reminded me again of the quote about the bird, that we are singing in the middle of this dark place, despite the darkness in our own hearts, because we have faith in the dawn that is breaking in. I feel so priviledged to be a part of the vision that the Garden of Hope has been working towards for years, and to encourage and learn from these people has been a huge blessing.
On Saturday morning we woke up early and drove to a nearby village to teach English to some kids that our Thai teacher, Khru, works with. It was so fun to sing with them and work one on one with kids who are so eager to learn. The girl I worked with learned so fast, even though she was pretty shy, and I wish that I could be as receptive to learning Thai as she was for english. During a moment of down time, I had the chance to talk with Faa from the Garden of Hope, and she told me more of her story. She is from the Aka hill tribes, a marginalized group of Thais who are not considered citizens and who are poorer and less educated than the rest of the Thai population. Despite not being wanted in Thai society, she went to college and excelled in Business and learned five languages (on top of the two she already knew). As she began to volunteer for the Garden, businesses made her offers to work for them...nice offers with good salaries and opportunities. She decided to work for the Garden instead, and dedicate her time to building relationships with kids on the streets and their families and educating them and loving them. Her friends think she is crazy, and sometimes she still struggles with her choice, but she loves the kids and the people of the streets and knows that this is what God has called her to do. She even told me about a time she was arrested, along with children, because she refused to leave and stop telling the kids about Jesus. Sometimes foreigners assume she is a prostitute as she walks the streets with kids, so she has learned Thai boxing for four years in order to protect herself (being the youngest out of 12 kids might have helped too). She probably weighs about 80 pounds, so knowing this is funny to imagine. Anyway, hearing her heart for the kids and her genuine love for Jesus made me cry actually...I hope that I can love with half the love she shows, and I hope that I can have the courage to give up prestige in order to love and give dignity to those in need.
After the time teaching english, we went to an outdoor market and were greeted with sights and sounds I can hardly begin to describe. But if you want a live eel, cockroach, or anyother sort of insect or fish product, thai markets are a great place to find those. I stuck with fruit (I love the pineapple!) and some dish that Faa recommended. It was really fun to walk around and greet the people. I even had the pleasure of using a squatty potty for the first time. It only cost 10 baht....
That afternoon we visited Brittany and Kelly in their apartment and walked around that part of Chaing Mai. We went to a Wat (temple) and Kelly and I released some birds that were in cages. I think it is part of some Buddhist ritual, there were all sorts of animals to be released into the river or into the sky, but we prayed together and tried to make it something beautiful for Jesus. Hannah released turtles, and we saw another lady releasing eels...I am glad I stuck with the birds. That night we had dinner at an amazing Indian restuarant (we had free time this afternoon so we choose not to eat more thai food, as amazing as it is) and the time and conversation was great. I love our team, and sharing time with the staff of Garden of Hope has been great too. After dinner Hannah and I decided not to cram in the back of a pick-up taxi as we had done to get there, as fun as that was. Instead we rented a tuk-tuk (motorbike cart thing) and rode back to the YMCA. It was so fun, and I am glad to count that as another one of my Thai traveling experiences :) As we met together as a team on Saturday night, we realized how much being with the kids instilled in us a hope for the future of Thailand. Each life is so important to us, and infintely more to God.
Sunday morning we had the pleasure of going to a Thai church service, which luckily was translated for us Americans. It lasted a good two hours, but it was fun to sing songs in Thai and english and to worship together with the Thai church. After church we had the afternoon to rest, and that is when I did my first blog post. At that time I was struggling with not feeling useful here in Thailand. There is a definite language barrier, I didn't feel like I could contribute anything, and it has been a process of learning how to love in all situations, to all peoples. As I prayed for opportunities to serve, I saw a man begging across the street next to the starbucks that I had been to that morning At first I wanted to turn away and thought, "Well, that isn't an opportunity, that is just a reality beggars in Thailand." As we left the internet cafe, I felt very false walking past and doing nothing when I had just prayed to be used. So Abe and Tyler and I went into a nearby store, bought some food and water, stopped by a fruit stand, and I went over and gave maybe three dollars worth of provisions to this man with his child. He had wai-ed me from across the street (greeting of respect where you put your hands together and bow) and I thought he looked older. As I came closer, I realized that he was probably younger than me, and the child laying in his arms was probably no older than three or four. I tried to speak my limited Thai with him, but he didn't understand me. I realized that he was probably Burmese, and my heart broke to realize how close I had come to walking by, especially after learning so much about the plight of the Burmese people. Please continue to pray for that situation and for the many people who are seeking to give aid and coming against many barriers. The Burmese government does not want to help it's people, and that level of evil is difficult to comprehend. Yet God does have the whole world in His hands, and His story of redemption has been working in our lives since the beginning, and it will continue to work in the darkest of places as we become the bridges of justice and mercy through big and small acts of great love.
After that we met together to go to the Sunday night market, which was the largest market I had ever seen in my life. And I had no idea there were so many tourists in Thailand. There was lots of things to see and eat and buy, and of course I did it all.
On monday we went back to the drop in center to hang out with the kids, and that was fun to see them again and play with them. In the afternoon we took them to a nearby movie theatre, and I sat with Peh and here sister as we watched the movie (which was in Thai so I didn't understand anything, but it was nice to be in air conditioning for a while). Afterwards we went out to Dairy Queen (yes, even in Thailand) and had hot dogs and ice cream. I passed on the hot dogs because I could see that being the one thing that would make me sick here...and went to get phad thai for dinner later instead. But it was so fun to be with the kids and to run around the mall and smile with them and love them and practice our broken Thai with them.
On Tuesday we went back to the drop in center to play, do crafts, and sing with the children. We split up into teams to pick up trash, go on prayer walks, and play with the kids for the afternoon. I ended up going on a walk for over two and a half hours, and seeing much of the city that I had not seen by driving on the main roads. This is a beautiful place filled with many paradoxes: buddhist temples next to bars, slums next to beautiful gated homes, shanty houses with televisions blaring, but over everything the smiles and greetings of the Thai people. It was strange to walk by gorgeous hotels after greeting people in the slums, and it made me realize that we are here for a very different purpose, and I hope that in some small sense we are redeeming the image of a tourist that many of the Thai people have. I know that the people that picked up trash had many interesting conversations and some Thais even brought them water. All in our lovely purple shirts :)
Tuesday night after dinner I went out with Brittany and Kelly and some other Fox girls to visit the women in the bars. I came with many expectations, and I still don't know how to capture with words the experience. We arrived and there were about seven women there, and after brief introductions we sat down to some beverages (they make part of their money off of the drinks they sell, so we bought some soda and treated them to drinks too). Then we began what would turn into a two hour round of Uno. I had so much fun, and almost forgot that we were playing Uno in a bar in Thailand with prostitutes until some men came in and some of their attention was diverted. It was heart breaking to see the way in which the men treated the women, and the things that they made them do even in public. It was also clear that many of them would rather have been playing Uno than spending time with these American men, who Brittany informed me were regulars. Half way through the game another American came who was badly crippled and in a wheel chair. He was also a regular, and one of the girls (who I later found out was sixteen) went and brought him a drink and stood with him. I realized, in a somewhat contrived connection, that this man represented physically what everyone in that bar was in some sense emotionally and spiritually--brokenness. His search for love and acceptance brought him to a Thai bar to solicit the attention of a prostitute. But my own search for love and acceptance has not always brought me to Grace either, and it has been incredibly humbling to recognize the common threads of humanity in our team from Fox, in the men at the bars, and in the Thai women who I played Uno with. The only difference is that we have accepted the gift of Grace, and by God's mercy we are able to live with a redeemed understanding of love and His love for us. I guess that night was the most transformative game of Uno I have ever played.
On Wednesday we followed a similar routine of going to the drop in center and playing with the kids. Some of the women from the bars, as well as nearby massage parlors, came to take English lessons, and I feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to do this. Me and Mel and Kari taught English for nearly four hours and I feel in love with our students. The first two that came were Muay and Cha Cha, and they worked at a nearby massage parlor. They had some basic English skills, and it was certainly a challenge to teach and create curriculm simultaneously. But it was so energizing and I have come to realize something I am super passionate about. I had never considered it really as ministry before, but there is a huge sense of empowerment in learning English. These women are in their thirties, and work from 10am to midnight everyday at the massage parlor. Luckily they have a lot of down time and so are able to come and take English lessons. The second round of women we taught were Om and Yu, who were far more limited so we were able to make a new curriculm and a scale for determining English proficiency...not nearly as affective as I am sure other programs would be, but for free on the spot English lessons, I hope we were able to do a good service to these wonderful women. Yu lives with her young daughter, and while she is at work she locks her in the room to keep her safe, becasue she can't afford child care. But now her daughter will be able to come to the drop in center and play with other children in a place that is safe, and I am so grateful for that.
That night after dinner the three of us girls went to the massage parlors to visit the women we taught english too. Muay was out to dinner with a costumer, and when we heard that the reality of their work hit us. While different from the prostitutes in bars, many ugly things happen in the massage parlors as well. Mark told us that a common formula for prostitution is a woman with little money and a man with more money, and that situation is not contained to just brothels or bars...it is virtually everywhere. To know this and then see our new friends was hard...these women are beautiful and courageous. They often support their entire families (men are not expected to do this because they are worth more in society) and are looked down upon by their own people and foreigners. We so much just wanted to love them and let them know that they are talented individuals worthy of so much more. As we chatted with them, they brought out all their english work and homework and we practiced and chatted for a while. Then we noticed that they didn't really have any business, and everytime someone walked by they would call out, "Hello, you like Thai massage?" in a sing-songy voice and they were completely ignored. So Mel and Kari and I asked for foot massages, and got one hour foot massages for three dollars, plus a one dollar tip which was nearly three times the normal amount people tipped. I honestly do not know how they can survive on such little money, and a few of them have children that they support on their own. The fact that they are so eager to learn English and work so hard has taught me much about being good stewards with our time and resources, and not taking for granted the amazing educational opportunities I have been given. We left that night with our feet feeling great, but our hearts somewhat heavy with the joy and sorrow that we had experienced somewhat simultaneously.
On Thursday morning we left early to visit the slums with Faa. Six of us girls headed out and walked for about two hours, stopping at homes to greet people and stopping for fruit along the way. Right next to nice homes there are slums where four families share a tiny tin house, and then there are more nice homes and then more slum areas. We stopped at one home along the river and witnessed a beautiful community of families sitting together and making things to sell that night on the streets. One of the items was a traditional Thai hat, and the lady making it had to be in her seventies. The process was so intricate, and while the hat is ridiculous looking by my standards, it was a thing of beauty to her and her culture. I asked how much it was and found out it was only five dollars, for hours of labor. I bought one and while I may never wear it, I will not forget that place and that woman who was sewing so diligently. Toward the end of our walk we met one of the mothers who brought her child to the drop in center. She cried and told us of how she was sick and didn't know why, but couldn't afford medical treatment. She asked us to pray for her, and so we laid hands on her and simultaneously in English and Thai offered our petitions to our heavenly Father, whose heart was breaking along with ours for this young mother and her situation. Sue was able to give her enough money from our budget to visit the doctor and get medicine, and she will continue to be in contact with the garden of hope as well. Please keep her and her family in your prayers too.
When we returned to the drop in center, Mark told us about some Burmese women he had visited the day before at the border. One had a baby ten days ago, the other was expecting a child in a few weeks. They had literally nothing to offer their babies, no clothing, diapers, or blankets. Again I was struck at the differences in the lives of these babies and the lives of the Strandy babies born this year, and I could not understand. Yet these women are our sisters too, and they are no longer alone because people have stepped into thier lives to support and love them. Some girls from our team went shopping and bought some supplies to be sent to them, and hopefully it can make a small difference. World Vision has a clinic there as well, so they will be taken care of medically in the months to come.
In the afternoon, Muay, Cha-Cha, Om, and Yu came back for more English lessons. We laughed together, we chatted together, and I hope they learned at least a little. It was funny working on 'L' sounds and "th" sounds which often come out "r" sounds and "sh" sounds. So instead of play it is pray, and instead of three it is shree. I have a lot of respect for these women, that they would sit through ours of learning how to say words and then go back to hours of sitting at the massage shop. This is definitely something I would love to pursue in the future and I hope to become better equipped with the knowledge and resources to offer the best to women such as these who are seeking to learn English. Again there was an element of heartbreak, as I asked Cha Cha why she was happy, she said because she was in love. I asked her who she was in love with, and she told me her boyfriend who lived in Australia. She showed me a text message he sent her with words of love, and I asked if he was going to move to Thailand. She said he only came to visit, and it sounded similar to the stories Brittany and Kelly had shared about men who "support" women and then visit every once in a while. That love could be so contorted is heart breaking, and I only hope that our presence and love for the women could be the starting point to introducing them to the greatest Love.
After dinner that night we went back to the massage parlor, and Hannah came with us. Hannah and Cha Cha and I and another woman named Eh went on a walk through the night market and chatted and laughed. It felt like we were with friends walking through a shopping center. Cha Cha told me more about her siblings, how she was married when she was younger, how much she loves Thailand, and her hopes to learn more English. Eh shared with us her explorations in Buddhism, and it is clear her heart is open to Love and to Jesus. She wants to "live the best life for good luck" and is so much seeking meaning and fulfillment. We talked to Brittany and Kelly about her story, and talked about how to lovingly share Jesus. All these women are so much a part of my heart now, and I know that I will miss them when I leave.
On Friday we knew it would be the last day. Some of the group had spent more time with the kids, and the rest of us (myself included) were especially attached to the women we had met. We came to the center in the morning and worshiped together and prayed blessing over the Garden of Hope and the staff, that this work that was begun would be carried out and continued in the community and throughout the country. We sang a song called 23 and I nearly cried as I realized how much I want this to be my prayer and the prayer of the women and children we have met. Here are the lyrics:
"Arise oh Lord, Lift up your eyes, don't forget I'm helpless.
Oh you, lead me to waters and pastures so green.
Oh you, pour out your oil and choose goodness and mercy for me.
No I will not be in want
You're with me, I will not fear.
You comfort me, I will not fear.
Everything I ever wanted I found in you."
I so much pray that the women and children and men and that our team and you all would realize that in the midst of our helplessness, we can cry out to Jesus and He will lead us and He has chosen goodness for us and His mercy covers our brokenness. He is with us, and comforts our fears. I pray that the women would see his love and comfort in our hearts as well, and that we would be able to approach this love and grace together in humility, even within the darkest places and with our darkened hearts.
Following worship and prayer, I taught English again, and the hardest part was telling the women that we would not be back on Monday, but Kelly and Brittany would be taking over the teaching. They were so thankful, calling us "Khru" which means teacher. I will miss them so much, and I hope that teaching English will be a candle that was lit here that will not go out. Later in the afternoon I had the chance to teach English to two younger girls (I could never really prounce their names but I think it was Mae and Fon) and they were hilarious and so fun to teach. As we said goodbye and sang songs together, they started to cry when they realized we would not be coming back. I was completely humbled because I had not thought that just one experience would mean anything, but I have come to learn that all of our interactions are meaninful opportunities to show grace and love. Everytime you meet another human being is a chance for holiness, we can choose to show love and dignity or we can choose to look the other way. I will miss the girls and the kids, but especially the women. We visited them one last time last night and they painted our nails for us and laughed with us and we hugged goodbye, in a definite bittersweet moment.
Thank you for reading this incredibly long post, and for praying for all the various needs and requests I have mentioned. I am excited to see you all and share this in person, and show you the pictures of the beautiful people I have had the priviledge of meeting and loving here in Thailand. My time is up here and I will be going to have a day of rest before we work in the Hill Tribes next week in orphanages with Remember Nhu. I love and miss you all!